Marriage can be a fragile relationship that requires both husband and wife to be conscious of how to protect it. It requires deliberate steps to honor it to the glory of God and the happiness of the spouse. Some couples take it for granted that happiness in marriage happens automatically. It requires the effort of both husband and wife. A marriage may flourish with joy only for a few years, but after some months or years, many homes expect marital earthquakes and tornadoes. Michael Penetar establishes that: “It makes no difference how successful you are as a businessman, lawyer, accountant, skilled worker …. If your home life is not happy, you are not going to be happy because the home is number one. Everything springs from the home.”
Marriage requires a commitment by both husband and wife. Whatever comes your way, divorce is not the solution. Be committed to preserving your marriage covenant. Challenges in marriage are plenty; nevertheless, the couple needs to be committed to each other.
Your spouse is the best friend you have on earth apart from Jesus Christ, so find time to simply play together. Do not become an uncle or aunt to your spouse. To achieve the joy that is in marriage, the couple needs to regard each other as friends. The moment the husband is considered as a father or uncle, or the wife as a mother or an aunt, then, the couple may miss out on the joys of marriage.
Money is not a curse but a blessing. Most people spend money without a financial plan. Many earn good money but fail to make a proper savings. Some carry excess cash with them without a purpose while others borrow money without intentions to pay it back. Most families lack contingent funds in their homes and others just fail to review their monthly expenses. Others increase their expenses but not their income. Some do not just know what is enough, and many do forget the source of money.
The best insurance policy for a marriage relationship is faithfulness. Husband and wife should be truthful to each other. When there’s trust and integrity in marriage, marriage is well protected. Marriage is not about completion but compliments your companion. Hence, the secret of being honest to your mate in all matters is the best way to protect your relationship.
Marriage entails being transparent and honest in all ways of marital life. It could be in finances, sexual integrity speaking the truth, etc. You will protect your relationship by setting an example in the area of being honest
From the book—Enjoy Your Marriage.
“Make Christ first and last in everything. Constantly behold him and your love for him will become deeper and stronger. And as love for him increases, your love for each other will grow deeper and stronger.”
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
dr. daniel chuunga
An ordained minister in the Seventh-day Adventist Church. Pastor Chuunga is currently serving as president of Woodlands Conference of the SDA church. He is married to Exhildah, they are blessed with 2 daughters, Maluba and Muzuba. He is the author of the book “ Enjoy your marriage” (“African Secrets on Marriage”).
